Hi loves! It’s been awhile, but I promise I’ll explain in another post. Today, I wanted to chat about a topic that’s near and dear to my heart – simply because I feel like it’s not done enough. Of course you see all of the memes and tweets about how important it is to check on your strong friends, but does that lead you to actually do it? Even for me, I feel like I’m always so into helping others and checking in, that I forget that someone needs to do the same for me. So if you have a strong friend who you’re always going to for advice, but forgetting to check with them on their needs, this post is for you. Keep reading for my tips on how you can check on your strong friends and let them know you care about what they might be going through in secret.
Tip #1: Ask Before Unpacking Your Baggage
Instead of calling a friend and immediately drowning them in your problems, be sure to ask them if they have enough room and mental capacity to bear it. Sometimes people are already exhausted with their own problems, but they don’t know how to let you know that. I know for me, I often have days where I feel mentally strained, and I just don’t have the will-power to talk about issues and give advice because I’m just tired from my own things, BUT it’s my nature to put others first so I’ll stick it out even though I know I’m not feeling 100% myself. Don’t let this happen to you. If you’re not feeling up to being the super hero strong friend, let that be known. You’ll save yourself the headache if you do.
Tip #2: Send A Simply Text
I think as I get further in further into adulthood, it’s more common to go days, weeks without chatting with your close friends and just having one long phone call to catch up on everything. Although I love nothing more than catching up with my friends and learning what I might have missed in those weeks, I also want to prioritize being more on top of sending simply texts throughout the week to let them know I’m there for them. I was going through a period of time where I just felt so alone and to myself, and that was partially my fault because I wasn’t letting people in or reaching out. Be better at keeping up with the people you love. It takes less than 5 seconds to send a “hey, have a great week” text. So simple, but we make it so hard. Trust me, your strong friends, and friends in general, will appreciate you.
Tip #3: Don’t Weigh The Convo Down with Negativity
There are times when the conversation is easily swayed in a negative direction. We’re talking about how we can’t stand our jobs, or about a person that’s getting on your nerves. How do you feel after that conversation? Do you feel motivated, inspired, empowered…happy? If not, then think about ways to change the convo and be more positive. Now, I’m not saying overly positive – but add a good balance. Sure, that job may be annoying, but also balance it by talking about that promotion you just got and the new things you get to learn. Don’t drown your strong friends or friends in general with so much negativity that they feel even worse about their situation. Once you change the way you talk about things and look at things, the conversations you have will be more eye opening and excited to have.
What tips do you have on becoming a better friend, and making time for the strong people in your life?
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