What It’s REALLY Like To Be An Influencer

Gosh, I’ve been trying to put off writing this blog post, mostly because every time I see someone write about it they only seem to give the watered down version of it. People assume that being an “Influencer” is this fairytale that seems perfect. Well, it’s not and there’s so much that comes with it besides that usual stories that you probably hear. I’m sure you’ve heard about how it’s harder than it looks, and how there’s so much work that goes into it besides the glitz and glam you see on social media. I’m sure you’ve heard about how some opportunities aren’t paid, and how even when they are it’s not a ton of money like you think. I want to tell you a little bit more than that though if you’re willing to keep reading.

Before the word influencer was even a thing, I knew I wanted to be someone who made an impact. Someone who made a difference. This is what made me start blogging, and continue despite not seeing any type of reward of recognition. Now, when I started the whole blogging thing was still fairly new, especially within my friend group. The support was cool, but when people don’t understand it’s hard for them to put all of their support in. Overtime, the support has been overwhelming, but I think mostly because people see that I’m actually growing and making things happen for myself with or without it.

There’s one thing no one tells you though – the support you receive from actually influencers is few and far between. In my experience, it’s been tough making friends in this space. Mostly because you aren’t sure of the true intentions. It’s always the constant thought of if that person really wants the friendship or if they just want to be associated with you. Yes, there are some influencers that pretend to be your friend just to show the social media sphere that they’re “friends” with you. They support you with it’s only beneficial for them and their own growth through the ranks. Now, it’s not like this for everyone, just speaking from my perspective, but the group shots you see aren’t as real as you think.

Another thing no one tells you is that sometimes the products you see being promoted have probably not been used before that photo. Yes, it was probably just opened right before the shot. Early in my career, I just used to be happy to receive any opportunity I could, but now I’m more happy to be able to work with brands that I truly love and trust. Being transparent is hard for some influencers to do.

Here I am not giving you the watered down version because honestly I’m tired of reading the same stories about how there’s so much work that goes into the writing, the photography, etc. This is VERY true, don’t get me wrong – but to me it’s like DUH, I think everyone understands how much work it is at this point.

My goal for this year is to be more conscious and transparent. There are very great sides to being an influencer though! I’ve been in the room with some amazing people, and I’ve been able to work with brands that I never thought in a million years I would be able to reach. Being an influencer has truly changed me for the better. It’s allowed me to connect with you all on another level, and it’s allowed me to reach so many others who I’ve been able to inspire. I’m so thankful for every single one of you.

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  1. This is why I love you because you literally stay in your lane in a consistent way. I’ve watched you grow and it’s amazing. This is all facts!!!Some people will only want to associate with you if you have huge numbers and if your numbers are low some people don’t even want to consider you an “influencer” Also the fake sponsored content that comes off super salesy. Thank you for being authentic I’m so happy you touched on this topic

    1. Ugh, girl your support is always appreciated!! You are truly the best. No matter what I will always keep it real because it’s not enough of it. Thank you so much for the love!!

  2. I love how you keep everything transparent girl. As someone aspiring to be an influencer, I appreciate that you share the “need to know” about being an influencer.

    1. I appreciate this so much girl – thank you for reading! I think you’re doing an awesome job, and feel we definitely need more influencers who aren’t afraid to keep it real.

  3. I met you online and something made me like you. Now I see we are more alike then I even thought. Aside from us both being Geminis lol. I truly love the work that you do and I talk about you all the darn time. I love the transparency of this post and to me you truly are goals. I touched on support in one of my previous post andI completely agree with you about finding those that are genuine. Keep it up sis!

    1. Lol girl you know us Gemini’s are always on the same page! But really, I always appreciate and value the support you give, and just know I am rooting for your success, too! It’s always so good to come across people who are genuine and I’m thankful for people like you who show it. THANK YOU <33

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